The “What If” Game for Women’s Safety

There are many benefits of playing the What if game.  The main benefit is to place yourself in the perspective of one person who may have to either avoid a potential confrontation or to defend themselves against a violent attack. It is during this exercise that visualizing a plausible response to an attack is developed mentally and into a physical technique.  This game not only allows you to work out mental strategies prior to any type of attack, but to motivate you while practicing physical defensive techniques.

One of the easiest ways to mentally play the game is to watch any movie where a victim is selected by a predator.  Analyze how the victim comes across the predator’s path and just how the predator selects and approaches their victim.  Once the predator has made their initial contact, what could the potential victim do or not do to avoid being victimized.  If the victim is physically assaulted, exactly how did the predator render his victim compliant?  Was there anything the victim could have done during the initial physical confrontation or to effectively fight back. And lastly, did the victim totally incapacitate the predator, or allow the predator time to recuperate from their initial strikes from countering the attack.

Most of the movies that depict a violent theme of this nature have some basis of reality.  More likely than not, the crimes you see perpetrated on a movie screen or television have occurred to someone at sometime in the recent or not too distant past.  Television crime series will often use crimes taken from the headlines of violent encounters as the themes to their episodes.

Let’s look at the movie “Kiss the Girls” starring Morgan Freeman.  The plot depicts a series of young ladies have been abducted and held captive alive in a cave like setting.  One of the abducted women escapes and summons help and rescue the other captives.  Near the end of the movie, one of the suspects (whom you least expected) shows up at the victim’s door.  Because the suspect is a person who holds a position of trust (a police detective) the victim invites him into her home.  It is during their kitchen conversation that the abductor makes his secret and evil identity known.

There is a fight for her life right there in the kitchen and she momentarily knocks her one-time abductor out.  Rather than finish off the bad guy, she disengages from the fight which allows her bad guy to regain his senses.  Spoiler alert, Morgan Freeman comes to her aid and takes out the bad guy. What should she have done to follow up with her defensive technique?  She should have finished off the bad guy.  This was a guy who had already demonstrated he had committed extremely violent crimes against her and other women.  I guess it makes better drama for the movie to prolong the suspense of the fight and allow the hero (Morgan Freeman) to save the damsel in distress and be the one who takes out the bad guy once and for all.

In real life, when facing a violent altercation, one that could potentially end one’s life, do not hesitate to use the appropriate amount of force to stop the violent offender, even if that means using kitchen utensils, knives pots and pans and other improvised weapon to once and for all stop the offender from further harming their victim.

The abducted young woman theme has played out numerous times throughout our recent history.  Whether it was Pamala Smart in Utah, Jaycee Lee Dugard in California or Amanda Berry in Ohio, all three of these young ladies were abducted and held captive to be sexually exploited.  These ladies were smart and did whatever they could to survive the entire ordeal.  Nothing of what they did during their initial capture or continued captivity should be viewed in any negative manner.  What I am suggesting is that we use the horrible crimes they experienced as a teaching tool.  If we can for some brief period of time put ourselves in their shoes as a teaching tool to illustrate to our young children and ladies what to do should they find themselves in a similar situation, they may be capable of thwarting the attack and avoiding the years of torture at the hands of these wackos.  And for those who may not be able to completely avoid the attack, what they may be able to do while in the captor’s presence (regardless of if they fight to escape, incapacitate their captor, or submit to their captor) with the ultimate goal to survive to attack.

In cases of abduction and sexual assaults and other crimes of this nature that use extreme violence, deadly force is justifiable to prevent those crimes from being completed or to effect your escape from the suspect.

As you watch movies, television and any other media, take note of the various methods the bad guys (and women) use to inflict harm on their intended victims.  I assure you the bad people are watching, listening, learning and studying crimes committed by others to use on their victims, even if it’s replaying their last attack and improving on their own technique.

Envision yourself as the victim to see what tactics and techniques you could use if you were the one who needed to defend yourself.  Start from the very first moment the offender approaches the victim.  Exactly how did the offender make their approach? Was it a confidence approach where the offender engages the victim in some type of conversation in order to get close enough to attack the victim?  Or, was it a blitz attack where the offender suddenly appeared from their hiding place to attack their victim?  Did the offender strike or violently their victim with their hands, feet or use a weapon? Was there a gadget used by the victim in a feeble attempt to stop the attack?  Are there techniques you currently know that could use to stop the initial attack?  Do you feel confident or competent when defending yourself in the manner your on- screen victim was attacked? If not, seek out the information and begin training to overcome any potential weaknesses in your ability.

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